Please don’t quit your work straight away! Your job will require a blow which will recover never. We have buddies in academia, and it is extremely unforgiving.
As other people have stated, I would personally strongly recommend checking out other available choices first, including your spouse getting assistance for his social anxiety problems, marriage and counseling that is individual. It surely appears as if you want to have a great plan which you both agree upon *together* – again, as other people have stated, simply blindly going is not very likely to resolve their problems anyhow. It’s really tempting to consider that the lawn is obviously greener, but how might you feel he still has the same problems if you do blow everything to smithereens, move, and? (altro…)